Thursday, September 4, 2014

Adventures of Fisher...

I started this blog to be able to share with family and close friends the adventures with the boys! Well, we have started an adventure all right and I will be the first one to admit that it was well needed!

When Fisher was young he would throw temper tantrums to the point of no return.  He could not calm himself down from them and it was a horrible time for a mother and father to be able to control this.  We tried everything from spanking, time out, walking out of the room, taking everything away to just down right yelling!  We as parents were exhausted!  We knew he was spoiled at his old school so we figured when he did not get his way or do what he wanted to do he would throw a fit, well….
We started Kindergarten on August 9th.  It’s supposed to be a great time in every parent’s eyes to be able to cry (because they are growing up) and to get excited when they get excited about school.  Well for the first 2 weeks we got nothing but reds.  It is very embarrassing as a parent to be known as “Fisher’s Mom” the BAD kid!  I would cry and cry to my mom and my husband and just ask “what have we done wrong”?  The teacher and I had a talk and she just said Amanda, I just don’t think he is able to control himself.  I think that he is not doing this stuff on purpose or to hurt anyone.  So all of this time that I was yelling at him and scolding him was for something he could not control!  That makes you feel like crap!!! 
Once talking with his doctor it was decided that he needed medication.  Also as a mother I’m thinking “he’s just too young and what are other people going to think”!  WELL, I am done caring what others think.  I know what is best for my son and he has done a 180 since he has started medicine almost a week ago!  No he is not the same hyper kid but he still has his personality at times and he can actually “think” about what he is doing!  He LOVES school and talks about it when he gets home now!  And to see his face just light up when he says he got a “Green” was the best in the world!  It has been a long road of reds before we got all of these greens!  I had to step back and think about what is best for my child and what I was doing to him if I was not able to help him excel!  He is a very brilliant child but just needed the attention span to keep up with studies and to sit long enough to enjoy what he was learning! 
I love my children to the moon and back and would do anything for them!  ADHD can be over diagnosed at times but when you truly need medicine for it then it makes a world of difference! My husband and I are able to talk when we get home instead of fight because we are exhausted from the day that we have had with him! We are able to talk with Fisher about how his day went and he is able to talk with us and gets excited about learning! I don’t feel like I am constantly asking him to do things over and over again because he cannot understand what I am talking about!   
We will be seeing a psychologist to get 100% diagnosis tomorrow and he will see a counselor each week to cope with it so he is not dependent on it for the rest of his life!

Some still might talk behind my back about what they think is best, that he is too young or that he really doesn’t need it!  But take a walk in my shoes over the past 3 years and you tell me what is right and wrong!  

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